Slo Mo: A Podcast with Mo Gawdat

Dr. Robert Glover (Part 1) - How to Stop Being a "Nice Guy" and Get What You Want from Life

October 31, 2020 Mo Gawdat and Dr. Robert Glover Episode 57
Slo Mo: A Podcast with Mo Gawdat
Dr. Robert Glover (Part 1) - How to Stop Being a "Nice Guy" and Get What You Want from Life
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Slo Mo: A Podcast with Mo Gawdat
Dr. Robert Glover (Part 1) - How to Stop Being a "Nice Guy" and Get What You Want from Life
Oct 31, 2020 Episode 57
Mo Gawdat and Dr. Robert Glover

Note: Despite the title, this conversation is equally for men and women. Listen with an open mind. This is Part 1 of 2.

Today's guest is Dr. Robert Glover, author of the brilliant, often life-altering, and slightly controversial bestselling classic, No More Mr. Nice Guy.  It may not sound like the kind of book I'd read, but it is a little piece of self-help magic and has helped countless people recognize their own "Nice Guy Syndrome": the trait of hiding feelings and truths that we fear will get a negative reaction from other people so as to maintain the belief that we are "nice", leading to a host of toxic relationships and fundamentally dishonest behaviors.

Robert is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome, and through his book, classes, and therapy groups, he has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males, transforming their professional careers and intimate relationships along the way.

Before we get started, I again implore you stay open minded for this conversation. You will laugh, you may cringe, you may violently disagree or surprisingly agree, but this is as honest as discussions on human relationship dynamics can get. You will find some serious gems related to dating and maintaining relationships of any kind.

In Part 1, we discuss:

  • What is wrong with being a nice guy?
  • How 'nice guys' are often dishonest, resentful, and give to get
  • How Robert's second marriage was falling apart despite his best efforts to be nice
  • The "Victim Pukes"
  • The confused belief that if sex is bad and evil, why should it only be for the one you love?
  • The three covert contracts that lead to toxic relationships
  • The reason men become nice guys is due to desiring the validation of women
  • The crucial need for a stronger involvement of fathers in their sons' lives
  • Nice guy logic: "If I have needs, I'm bad, yet I want things, but won't accept them"
  • For women to experience sexual attraction, they need to experience emotional tension
  • "If a man can't stand up to me, how can he stand up for me?"
  • The effect of 50 Shades of Grey on society 
  • Human women are the most sexually evolved creatures on the planet, and men are apes

Instagram: @mo_gawdat
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Twitter: @mgawdat
LinkedIn: /in/mogawdat

Connect with Dr. Robert Glover on  Facebook @drrobertglover, Twitter @dr_r_glover, and his website, drglover.com

Don't forget to subscribe to Slo Mo for new episodes every Sunday and Thursday. Only with your help can we reach One Billion Happy #onebillionhappy

Show Notes

Note: Despite the title, this conversation is equally for men and women. Listen with an open mind. This is Part 1 of 2.

Today's guest is Dr. Robert Glover, author of the brilliant, often life-altering, and slightly controversial bestselling classic, No More Mr. Nice Guy.  It may not sound like the kind of book I'd read, but it is a little piece of self-help magic and has helped countless people recognize their own "Nice Guy Syndrome": the trait of hiding feelings and truths that we fear will get a negative reaction from other people so as to maintain the belief that we are "nice", leading to a host of toxic relationships and fundamentally dishonest behaviors.

Robert is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome, and through his book, classes, and therapy groups, he has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males, transforming their professional careers and intimate relationships along the way.

Before we get started, I again implore you stay open minded for this conversation. You will laugh, you may cringe, you may violently disagree or surprisingly agree, but this is as honest as discussions on human relationship dynamics can get. You will find some serious gems related to dating and maintaining relationships of any kind.

In Part 1, we discuss:

  • What is wrong with being a nice guy?
  • How 'nice guys' are often dishonest, resentful, and give to get
  • How Robert's second marriage was falling apart despite his best efforts to be nice
  • The "Victim Pukes"
  • The confused belief that if sex is bad and evil, why should it only be for the one you love?
  • The three covert contracts that lead to toxic relationships
  • The reason men become nice guys is due to desiring the validation of women
  • The crucial need for a stronger involvement of fathers in their sons' lives
  • Nice guy logic: "If I have needs, I'm bad, yet I want things, but won't accept them"
  • For women to experience sexual attraction, they need to experience emotional tension
  • "If a man can't stand up to me, how can he stand up for me?"
  • The effect of 50 Shades of Grey on society 
  • Human women are the most sexually evolved creatures on the planet, and men are apes

Instagram: @mo_gawdat
Facebook: @mo.gawdat.official
Twitter: @mgawdat
LinkedIn: /in/mogawdat

Connect with Dr. Robert Glover on  Facebook @drrobertglover, Twitter @dr_r_glover, and his website, drglover.com

Don't forget to subscribe to Slo Mo for new episodes every Sunday and Thursday. Only with your help can we reach One Billion Happy #onebillionhappy